Keeping the flame alive is important for couples. The initial honeymoon phase of a relationship is
certainly nice. However, when you are looking at long-term sustainability other factors come into play. As one’s relationship matures you need to make it a priority. Remember couple’s romance needs a slice of your time even as you juggle work, family and community commitments.
Couples can be pleasantly surprised how much of a difference it makes to their relationship if they consistently invest some time and energy to tending to it. Sometimes this can be a little thing like finding the time to talk and really connect. With a little bit of emotional investment it can continue to be one of the most rewarding relationships of your life.
It is important for couples to share some of the same interests and values. This helps provide a platform for them to share time in a pleasant way. However, it is also good for couples to have some time that is all their own. Having some separate interests and activities also adds variety and interest to the relationship. It allows a sense of independence. This sort of think can help bring new things into conversations, etc. when you are spending time together.
Be part of the solution
If you are feeling that you and your partner are getting into a bit of a romantic slump consider how you can influence this. Is it possible for you to be a bit more flirty, or initiate a conversation you have been putting off. Reflect on what part of the connection feels weakest to you. Then ask what you could set in motion to change this? Most people are responsive to someone else taking the lead to plan a date night or other show of affection. This even results in reciprocity at some point as well.
It is possible
It is reassuring to hear that it is possible to keep the flame alive over the long term. If you would like to hear about how real couples make this a reality you will be interested in watching this special feature I participated in for Chanel NewsAsia on Valentines Day.